● You may see that your child is getting a lot of work and most of it they may not be able to do without your help
● Some problems may just be difficult getting started as the amount of work may feel overwhelming (break up the task or only do a few questions and be done with it for the day)
● Any effort on the tasks should be praised (they probably aren’t praised as much at school so some subjects may bring up a lot of resistance for them)
● Some children will benefit from being able to work next to you, like a body double, helping them stay focused on the task at hand, and giving them security that they can ask questions if they need
● Some older children or teens may benefit from Pomodoro timers, to keep their focus on longer tasks (a timer of 25 min on and a 5 min break)
● Depending on the age of your child and the level of difficulty with focus, the length of focus will vary (and just like a neurodivergent adult, some days are better than others, which will impact their effort and outcomes)
● Just because they were taught something once, doesn’t mean they’ll remember it (and don’t be surprised if you have to remind them in different ways until you find a way that works for the)
● Check in with your older children and teens. They may benefit with an overview of their tasks before they get started or to talk out a plan of what they want to accomplish.
● It’s not easy to get any child to do work they aren’t interested in. It’s not your job to have them do all their work either. Sometimes the natural consequences are needed for them to decide what to do next. Offer your help if they need, and check in with them regularly, without judgement or blame. Resistance is more often about feeling insecure about a task than trying to be difficult on purpose.