What do I do for my anxiety?
Have you ever heard of fight, flight and freeze? These are our bodies response to imminent danger. This is also what I have noticed my body is doing when I have strong anxiety symptoms to everyday things! So I have started to tell myself “Alyssa, you are not in imminent danger! You are okay!”. Being rational and talking to my symptoms helps me so much. It gives me a second to breathe and tell my body that I don’t need to fight, flight or freeze to this non-threatening situation!
I noticed that I am not always breathing. This sounds crazy, right?! I’m often holding my breath or taking very shallow breaths. I make sure to practice taking slow deep breaths from my stomach. I make sure not to put too much pressure on myself by making my breaths “perfect”. I put my hand on my stomach and feel my stomach rising and falling. It’s important to note that this doesn’t actually help me when I am in a state of panic (the above point helps me in that situation) but it helps me to relax and de-stress during the day.
Journaling is my best tool for decoding my anxiety. I basically just brain dump my feelings onto paper and re-read it to understand what’s going on. I can usually find clues and “aha” moments just by writing my feelings down onto paper and getting them out of my head.
I talk to friends to process my thoughts
A lot of us with ADHD are verbal processors. This means that we process information by speaking.
I listen to my body signals:
All of these are signs that I am not happy or comfortable with something. I have done a lot, and I mean a lot of investigating and self-work. I can now usually identify what my anxiety is telling me. And when I can’t identify what my anxiety is saying, I turn to my journal to figure out what’s going on. In my opinion this is extremely important! By decoding and understanding one of my experiences I can decode and understand many of my past and future experiences. By understanding and decoding my anxiety I can then act and process moments and situations that I am uncomfortable with a heck of a lot faster and sometimes even in the very moment that it’s happening!
I am not saying that I am blessed to have anxiety but I will say that I am grateful for it. Since I am usually slow to process situations thanks to my ADHD, I am glad that my anxiety tells me that I am uncomfortable or unhappy.
What does your anxiety tell you? Do you listen to it?
Alyssa Shaw delivers ADHD coaching sessions to help you regain control of your life and target the moon!